New Love - PUKE!

Without sounding as though I do not love my husband I have recently been exposed to a "new love" and am not sure if I am jealous or just want to vomit.  No seriously, I think it's wonderful to see two people who are in the "new" stages of dating.  I recently had lunch with a very close friend who has found a new love and he is so giddy that I actually had to tell him and his new love to quit touching each other.  :-)  I used to think that people hated seeing Scott and I together because although we've been married about 9 years we still sit on the same side of the table when we go out, we still hold hands, and by all appearances we just started dating.  Sometimes we would go out to eat and look at other people who looked absolutely miserable together and say to each other how we NEVER wanted to look like that.  I mean if you can't even go out to eat and be enjoying each others company, what's the point? 

I guess once your an "old married folk" you forget about the stages you go through when you have first met someone.....you are generally the skinniest that you have been since high school.  You look forward to EVERYTHING together because you have so much to experience. All is new and there is so much to learn.  You can't stand to be away from each other and if you were  a rabbit, you'd have an entire house top to bottom with baby rabbits. 

I am guilty as I know most are who have been married for a while to fall into the "natural" progression of marriage.  You may not shave your legs everyday anymore...a baggy ol' t-shirt is acceptable bedtime attire, and you quit looking forward to walking in the door because let's face it, you know when you get there, it's laundry, dishes and kids and no longer just the anticipation of seeing your spouse because you've been without him all day.  The saddest part of this is that it happens without you realizing it and for couples you wake up one day and realize it's too late to try to find some of that "new love" still in there. 

Moral of this story is not to worry that Scott and I are doomed because we frequently are trying to enjoy each other and keep the "sparkle" going, but that should your marriage consist of sitting at Arby's barely speaking to each other from across the table, find a way to make it "new"....at least on some level.....maybe toss that t-shirt (no chance Jarvis).....shave your legs more than once a week......or walk into the house and greet your husband as though you thought you'd never see him again (I can definately do this more).